Therapy for Pregnancy Loss, Birth Trauma & Perinatal Mental Health
Specialized therapy for women navigating pregnancy loss, infertility, birth trauma, postpartum anxiety, NICU experiences, and reproductive grief.
Virtual therapy available throughout New York & Connecticut.
You may look like you’re holding it together while inside, you’re grieving, anxious, overwhelmed, or trying to make sense of an experience that changed you.
Maybe your pregnancy or birth did not unfold the way you imagined. Maybe you are grieving a miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, neonatal loss, or infertility. Maybe you are pregnant again after loss and finding it difficult to trust your body or feel hopeful. Or perhaps motherhood has brought anxiety, intrusive thoughts, identity changes, or memories you cannot seem to move past.
You do not have to carry all of this alone.
At Solmaterna Psychotherapy & Consulting, I provide specialized, trauma-informed therapy for women and birthing people throughout New York and Connecticut, including NYC and Westchester County.
You may be here because something still doesn’t feel settled.
You might be:
replaying a difficult pregnancy, delivery, medical procedure, or NICU experience
grieving a miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, neonatal death, or other reproductive loss
navigating infertility, IVF, or another assisted reproductive experience
pregnant again after loss and struggling with fear or uncertainty
experiencing postpartum anxiety, depression, intrusive thoughts, or feeling unlike yourself
carrying guilt, anger, numbness, sadness, or questions that other people do not seem to understand
feeling disconnected from your body after pregnancy, birth, loss, or medical trauma
moving through motherhood or midlife wondering, “Who am I now?”
functioning well on the outside while feeling overwhelmed underneath
You do not need to wait until things become unbearable to seek support.
Therapy can be a place where you no longer have to minimize what happened or explain why it still matters.
Let’s Talk About What You’re Carrying.
A Specialized Approach to Perinatal & Reproductive Trauma
I’m Dr. Solimar Santiago-Warner, LCSW, PMH-C, a licensed clinical social worker, certified perinatal mental health professional, EMDR-trained therapist, educator, and scholar.
My work focuses on the places where grief, trauma, reproductive experiences, motherhood, identity, and the body intersect.
I have spent years supporting individuals and families through pregnancy complications, pregnancy and infant loss, NICU experiences, reproductive trauma, and major life transitions.
My approach combines clinical expertise with warmth, curiosity, and an understanding that healing is not only about what happened.
It is also about what happened to your sense of safety, your body, your relationships, your identity, and the future you imagined.
Our work may incorporate EMDR, grief therapy, somatic and body-based approaches, trauma-focused psychotherapy, mindfulness, and culturally responsive care.
You will not be asked to “move on.”
We will work toward helping you feel more grounded, connected, and able to live alongside what you have experienced without it consuming so much of your life.
How I Can Support You
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Miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, neonatal death, infertility, fetal diagnosis, and other reproductive losses can affect far more than a pregnancy.
You may be grieving your baby, the future you imagined, your sense of safety, your relationship with your body, or even the person you were before the loss.
Therapy offers a place to grieve without a timeline and begin making sense of what happened.
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We’ll work gently and intentionally to help you process what you’re experiencing while building a sense of internal safety and grounding. Support is available for anxiety, depression, OCD, bipolar disorder, and perinatal mood and thought disturbances.
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Sometimes the birth is over, but your body and mind still feel like they are there.
You may replay moments from your delivery, feel panic around medical settings, experience nightmares or intrusive memories, or struggle with anger about how you were treated.
Parents who have experienced an unexpected NICU or PICU stay may also carry fear, helplessness, guilt, or hypervigilance long after their child comes home.
Using trauma-informed therapy and EMDR, we can work with the memories and reactions that continue to feel unresolved.
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Motherhood can hold love and joy while also bringing anxiety, grief, anger, loneliness, intrusive thoughts, or a profound change in identity.
I support women experiencing:
Postpartum anxiety and depression • intrusive thoughts • perinatal OCD • birth trauma • emotional overwhelm • identity changes • perfectionism • guilt • relationship strain • difficulty adjusting to motherhood.
Therapy gives you space to care for the person underneath all the expectations of who a mother is supposed to be.
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Trying to build a family can become emotionally exhausting when your life begins revolving around cycles, appointments, procedures, test results, waiting, and uncertainty.
Infertility can affect your relationships, sexuality, identity, friendships, finances, and trust in your body.
You deserve a place where you do not have to stay positive or explain why this is so difficult.
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Sometimes you understand what happened intellectually, but your nervous system still responds as though the danger is present.
EMDR can help process traumatic memories and experiences that continue to trigger fear, anxiety, shame, or distress.
I offer EMDR therapy and focused EMDR intensives for experiences including birth trauma, pregnancy loss, reproductive trauma, NICU trauma, medical trauma, and other distressing experiences.
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Not every reason for therapy begins with a crisis.
You may simply realize that the version of you who carried everyone else cannot continue carrying everything in the same way.
I work with women navigating motherhood, matrescence, perimenopause, high-achieving careers, burnout, perfectionism, relationship changes, and questions about identity and purpose.
Therapy can become a place to ask:
Who am I now, and what do I want this next part of my life to feel like?
Therapy That Makes Room for Your Whole Story
Your reproductive and emotional experiences do not happen outside of culture, family, identity, relationships, or the systems around you.
My work is culturally responsive and grounded in an understanding of how race, culture, family expectations, gender, spirituality, medical systems, and lived experience can shape the way we experience grief and trauma.
This is particularly important in my work with Black, Latina, Afro-Caribbean, BIPOC, first-generation, and multicultural women and families whose experiences may not always feel fully understood in traditional mental health spaces.
You should not have to leave parts of yourself outside the therapy room in order to receive good care.
What Therapy With Me Is Like
You will find warmth here, but you will also find depth.
We may talk. We may notice what is happening in your body. We may use EMDR to process a memory that still feels painfully present. We may explore grief, relationships, identity, family patterns, or the expectations you have carried for years.
Some sessions may involve learning concrete tools for anxiety or nervous-system regulation. Others may simply give you space to say something you haven’t been able to say anywhere else.
There is no single formula.
The work is shaped around you.
Online Therapy in New York & Connecticut
Solmaterna Psychotherapy & Consulting provides secure telehealth psychotherapy for clients located throughout:
New York City • Westchester County • New Rochelle • The Bronx • Manhattan • Brooklyn • Queens • Long Island • Connecticut
Because sessions are virtual, you can receive specialized perinatal and reproductive mental health care from your own space without adding another commute or appointment location to your life.
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You Don’t Have to Know Exactly What You Need Yet.
Sometimes the first step is simply telling someone:
“This is what happened, and I’m not sure what to do with it.”
That is enough.
We can begin there.
I offer a complimentary 15-minute consultation so you can tell me a little about what brings you to therapy, ask questions, and get a sense of whether working together feels right.